I like this simple reminder...Go on...take every opportunity you can to let others know what magic you see in them...let it also serve as a reminder that words are powerful in the opposite degree just as MUCH or MORESO...
Don Migual Ruiz in The Four Agreements (amazing book which has had a LASTING impact on me that I recommend to ALL my clients!) talks about being "Impeccable with your Word"....indeed so...
LOTS OF LOVE to you all! xoxoxoxo
"Too Busy for a Friend?
One day a teacher asked her students to list the names of the other students in the room on two sheets of paper, leaving a space between each name.
Then she told them to think of the nicest thing they could say about each of their classmates and write it down.
It took the remainder of the class period to finish their assignment, and as the students left the room, each one handed in the papers.
That Saturday, the teacher wrote down the name of each student on a separate sheet of paper, and listed what everyone else had said about that individual.
On Monday she gave each student his or her list. Before long, the entire class was smiling. 'Really?' she heard whispered. 'I never knew that I meant anything to anyone!' and, 'I didn't know others liked me so much,' were most of the comments.
No one ever mentioned those papers in class again. She never knew if they discussed them after class or with their parents, but it didn't matter. The exercise had accomplished its purpose. The students were happy with themselves and one another. That group of students moved on.
Several years later, one of the students was killed in Iraq and his teacher attended the funeral of that special student. She had never seen a serviceman in a military coffin before. He looked so handsome, so mature.
The church was packed with his friends. One by one those who loved him took a last walk by the coffin. The teacher was the last one to bless the coffin.
As she stood there, one of the soldiers who acted as pallbearer came up to her. 'Were you Mark's math teacher?' he asked. She nodded: 'yes.' Then he said: 'Mark talked about you a lot.'
After the funeral, most of Mark's former classmates went together to a luncheon. Mark's mother and father were there, obviously waiting to speak with his teacher.
'We want to show you something,' his father said, taking a wallet out of his pocket 'They found this on Mark when he was killed. We thought you might recognize it.'
Opening the billfold, he carefully removed two worn pieces of notebook paper that had obviously been taped, folded and refolded many times. The teacher knew without looking that the papers were the ones on which she had listed all the good things each of Mark's classmates had said about him.
'Thank you so much for doing that,' Mark's mother said. 'As you can see, Mark treasured it.'
All of Mark's former classmates started to gather around. Charlie smiled rather sheepishly and said, 'I still have my list. It's in the top drawer of my desk at home.'
Chuck's wife said, 'Chuck asked me to put his in our wedding album.'
'I have mine too,' Marilyn said. 'It's in my diary'
Then Vicki, another classmate, reached into her pocketbook, took out her wallet and showed her worn and frazzled list to the group. 'I carry this with me at all times,' Vicki said and without batting an eyelash, she continued: 'I think we all saved our lists'
That's when the teacher finally sat down and cried. She cried for Mark and for all his friends who would never see him again.
The density of people in society is so thick that we forget that life will end one day. And we don't know when that one day will be.
So please, tell the people you love and care for, that they are special and important. Tell them, before it is too late.
And One Way To Accomplish This Is: Forward this message on. If you do not send it, you will have, once again passed up the wonderful opportunity to do something nice and beautiful.
If you've received this, it is because someone cares for you and it means there is probably at least someone for whom you care.
If you're 'too busy' to take those few minutes right now to forward this message on, would this be the VERY first time you didn't do that little thing that would make a difference in your relationships?
Remember, you reap what you sow. What you put into the lives of others comes back into your own.
May Your Day Be Blessed You are Special!"
What LOVELY thing could you do today to have this impact on someone else?
I often do mentoring work with the Beacon Foundation and there is one especially beautiful exercise we do with the girls that is very similar to this...
We pin pieces of A4 coloured paper to the backs of each girl and everyone moves around the room to write something they like or admire about each person...
It is a beautiful exercise in which people feel safe to express themselves because of the anonymity...
Watching the girls faces as they read their paper once the exercise is done is priceless...! I LOVE IT!
Anyway, I try to be mindful of truly expressing how I feel about others no matter how silly I think they might think I am...it gets easier too, by the way...to tell others you love them and what you especially admire about them! :)
I send little cards here and there as I think of people, random texts/emails....just something that says, "Thinking of You" is often enough to give someone else a warm, fuzzy feeling that leaves them feeling that they ARE important and someone in the world thought so enough to let them know :)
Give it a go! :)
One word of caution here though...I learnt through early experiences that you must truly check in with your intention when you do reach out to express yourself in such ways...it is important to have NO EXPECTATIONS around the person you are communicating to reciprocating, or even acknowledging you or thanking you for your gesture. Often people do mean to say thank you or reply, but they just get busy and forget...sometimes they are unable to send the same feelings back...whatever the case you will only set yourself up for hurt if you have any (even SUBCONSCIOUS) expectations around a response of any kind..
When I send these thoughts to others I do so knowing it could be one way, they could think I'm a nutter and they may not reply at all....I have made true peace with that and know that to me it is most important that I express how I feel no matter what :)
I have let go of any expectations and simply choose to love and express freely! It feels GOOD! :)
LOTSA LOVE,
BridgetJane
Food Body Lifestyle Guru
www.newleafnutrition.com.au
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