It is rare that we actually stop to ponder the hard-wired program that is US. Each day and moment are so automatic; our responses and way of being so assumed; our understanding of WHO WE ARE simply accepted and played out as Gospel.
It is only when we start to dis-identify with ourselves and our way of being and instead begin to OBSERVE ourselves; our thoughts and actions, that we start to get some true insight into how all of these unspoken definitions, assumptions, judgements and labels play out in our life and create the picture of our current reality.
There are many examples lately that I could discuss here, however, one in particular stands out as an incredibly powerful experience to share.
One is of a lady in her forties, lets call her Pollyanna. Married with two children, I have been working with this gorgeous spirit for quite some time now. All along I could feel that there was something she was holding back; an impenetrable guard that stood between her soul and true essence, and the rest of the world, including me and even her own awareness.
You could quite frankly say, her heart was locked. A beautiful and endearing woman with a true heart of gold, however, when you looked more deeply, very guarded and beneath that, very fearful of being too vulnerable and open for hurt.
In order for me to make true progress with a person and to see true transformation, I need to work with my clients at a very DEEP level. Playing on the surface and rearranging the more tangible and visible aspects of life might SLOWLY lead to change, however it is often VERY HARD work and definitely NOT SUSTAINABLE. Working at this level requires LOTS of motivation, conscious effort and is VERY ENERGY DRAINING.
In contrast, when we work from the heart and soul level, change is INSPIRED and GUIDED and the possibilities are ENDLESS.
So although I knew that there was this block or barrier to making true change and shifts, I also knew too, that NOW was not the right time to push and prod. I knew simply to WAIT for this stuck state to reveal itself.
Well, the other day it did. It was so magical, so touching, so soul tingling-ly CLEAR, the shift JUST HAPPENED. By allowing the space, time, nurturing and patience required, it revealed its truth flowingly and with so much courage. It was such an amazing moment that it cannot be aptly described in words.
Here this woman's heart opened like a gorgeous rose, ready to bloom and show its true beauty. The vulnerability, the realness, the rawness...in that moment I witnessed true feminine liberation and power. It truly was earth-shatteringly spectacular.
I can confidently tell you that NOW this woman's true change will occur. By opening her heart to TRUTH, something she had closed off from for fear of the incredible hurt, Pollyanna was freed.
In that moment of truth of all the labels, lies and assumptions she had made about herself, her life, how she "should" be, how she "should" feel, how she "should" deal with life, simply DISSOLVED.
And from that platform of TRUE CLARITY and SPACE, the opportunity for new AWARENESS, DEFINITIONS and EXPERIENCES flooded open.
This woman became free to REINVENT herself; to observe and question, with honesty, how she was relating to herself, the world and others and to start to really CHOOSE how she will now do this, so that it BEST SERVES her.
You see as women, we often put our needs, desires and true feelings aside so that we can ensure our children and family are looked after first and foremost.
The thing is though, when we do not FIRST truly LOVE, NUTURE, HONOUR, FORGIVE and LOOK AFTER OURSELVES, we slowly push our heart, soul and true selves into the background, where our true love and light cannot be consistently seen or felt by those we love most.
It is true, in order to truly LOVE, FORGIVE and HONOUR others, we must FIRST do this for ourselves.
I am truly excited by the possibilities that have now opened for Pollyanna and the true LOVE she can now slowly EMBODY and EMBRACE allowing it to thereby naturally emanate out to all those she encounters.
Through pain, comes healing and the opportunity for true self reflection and awareness. Through pain we get to know ourselves better and how we allow the world to treat us; essentially how we treat ourselves.
Pain is not a necessary catalyst as such, however, if we embrace pain, rather than resist it when it comes up, it can be one of the most powerful transformational tools.
So the moral of the story with Pollyanna really is that a LIFETIME of denying and bottling up her PAIN, HURT, TRUTH and FEELINGS created an impenetrable barrier which kept her STUCK and perpetuating the same CURRENT REALITY over and over again, when she truly CRAVED change and growth.
By opening her heart to the FLOOD of pain and truth that she had been holding back, Pollyanna was able to start anew, from a completely cleared and freed up space.
Just as in nature, floods carry away and wipeout a landscape leaving it clear and free for REDEVELOPMENT, new beginnings, and recreation, so too do they at a soul level, if allowed. After clearing the devastation and destruction, there is space for the NEW, an entirely re-created landscape.
POWERFUL.
Perhaps, reflect and ponder where in YOUR life you hold back TRUTH and PAIN, in order to protect yourself. Consider too, how at any time you can let down this guard, allow the flood to occur, and then with time, love, courage and patience, allow healing and awakening to present to you to an entirely new possibility of yourself and life.
Realise that in any moment you can WIPE OUT the definitions, assumptions and labels that keep YOU STUCK and disempowered.
Any moment you can gracefully allow the flood and make way for a REINVENTION of you!
Have fun fellow creators :P
LOTS OF LOVE,
BridgetJane
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